The facts about domestic violence affecting women – Part 5
Absolutely true, domestic violence affecting women is not happening in America alone. It is a world wide injustice being inflicted upon women of all ethnic groupings, races and nationalities. Every day, women are subjected to some form of domestic violence against them.
In many societies and cultures, women are regarded as creatures created to serve men. They are considered as child production tool to keep the blood linage surviving, if she can not bear any children then she is ridiculed by the husband verbally and psychologically. For example, in my culture a woman is expected to produce sons for the tribe but if she can not fulfill that obligation then she is sent back to her kins, loosing all her status as a wife.
Many women are beaten up physically, deprived of financial support, can not negotiate the use of condom within the marriage and get infected with HIV/AIDS from their husbands. Even the suggestion of using the condom can cause suspicions and reprisals from the husband although the the husband knows that he is being unfaithful to his wife. Other women get raped by their husbands because she refuses to have sex while others are forced to participate in activities that they have no control over.
It is really heart breaking how the very person that a woman loves, adores, bears his child and commits her life to acts violently and abuses her is a great concern for women. When will men accept and love the women unconditionally without hurting them in their own homes?
The facts about domestic violence affecting women – Part 2
Domestic violence affects women every day everywhere. This is not an easy problem to solve because there is such secrecy surrounding it. When a woman is being abused within a home there is a tendency to be quiet about it because the abuser will go to jail. The abuser can be a husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or even our own children. The abused woman does not want to see any of these loved one’s in her life go to jail.
Becoming a victim of abuse can happen quietly over time. You start out as a strong woman living a life women all over the world live everyday. Then something happens and you feel to blame. You take your “punishment” and just go on with life. Soon the punishments and abuse become more and more often. We soon become convinced we are really to blame. If we did or didn’t do something it would never happen. If we were just nicer or more understanding or not such a bitch or whatever other names we are called then the abuse would never happen.
This is a false security! The only one to blame in an abuse situation is the abuser! They know what they are doing is wrong or it wouldn’t be such a secret. Once the abuse starts it is very hard to get under control because over time a woman is convinced she is to blame and life without the abuser would be too horrible to face.
The only way to stop the abuse is through education and lots of it. Make it known in everyday life and through the media. We are doing a good job of education women in this country, but now we just have to learn it is ok to fight back! No one should be a victim of abuse whether it is a woman, child or man. When you find yourself as a woman in an abuse situation you must learn to change your way of thinking. Once you do this you are on the road to recovery and escape.
Will it be dangerous if you leave? Sometimes. But it can be just as dangerous if you stay. A true abuser will eventually kill you. If not physically then it will be mentally, pushing you closer to suicide so that they can justify their actions when you take your own life because “you were so awful anyway.”
Do NOT let this kind of a lifestyle go on. Learn to fight back. There are lots of ways to fight. Mentally, physically and legally. Join your community and help others to escape or cope and you will learn to help yourself.
